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Natural Nudity on Womens’ Day!

March 9, 2011

"The Three Graces" by Peter Paul Rubens


Celebrate Nudity

Today I write you from a beautiful retreat center on the Northern California coast, a place founded in the 60’s by experimental hippies and psychologists. It’s now one of the most revered centers for the sacred arts and a gorgeous place to be on vacation. One of the main attractions here are the sulfur hot springs, natural hot springs sitting on the edge of a breathtaking view of the pacific ocean. Although many things here have changed since the hippie days, nude bathing and beaches have not. People come here from all over the world to experience this place, many of which have had little exposure to public nudity. Last week, there was a group of CEO’s from a variety of companies, including Trader Joe’s, Starbucks and Google. I watched as many of them, who appeared overly conservative on the outside leave the bathing area with peaceful smiles. I was wondering how their experience with public nudity struck them. I asked a few women (and men too.) They all said that it was weird for a few minutes and then they loved it. They really enjoyed the freedom of not having to cover up who they really are. Beneath the big salaries and suits, they all enjoyed their humanness and didn’t feel objectified exposing their bodies.

On International Womens’ Day

I had a similar experience when I first undressed in public. I was self conscious about my body, but it slipped away within seconds. As a woman, I have an ingrained nervousness about being ‘seen,’ especially without clothes. Although, surprisingly here I don’t feel that way at all. What I find is that while being obviously nude, people are more respectful of each others’ space then while wearing clothes out in the world. Extra attention is paid to not stare and to just be. I recently read some studies about how children exposed to nudity (as confirmed in an earlier post by Dr. Jaelline Jaffe, are actually more comfortable in their bodies and have a healthier body self image than their piers. Nudity in itself is not a big deal. It’s just what we’ve made of it in this country that places so much shame and expectations on ourselves to have a ‘perfect body’ according to the modern media. It seems these expectations are exaggerated for women.

It’s quite comical when you look at it as all bodies really are different. Many years ago, a softer, more voluptuous body was ‘in style.’ Perhaps, we’ll move back to that as time goes on.

So today on International Womens’ Day, consider some things you can do to honor that body you’ve got, however it looks. If being naked for a while inspires how, how about trying it at home? Arrange a naked day for cooking, reading or working at home. Maybe set up a naked photo shoot to highlight and embrace your body. You could even spend some time in front of a mirror seeing yourself, honoring the “imperfections.” If I have learned anything from being here about naked people, it’s that there are a bajillion ways a body can look. And I’ve rarely seen anyone match a magazine or a billboard.

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“What’s Up Down There?”

September 24, 2010

This week, I came across a diamond of a book titled “What’s Up Down There: Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend” that is seconds away from it’s BIG launch. The author, Dr. Lissa Rankin MD is a sassy gynecologist, artist and womens’ wellness care provider. Of course, I pre-ordered the book and immediately contacted Lissa that day. I also realized that the picture on the cover has a mirror over the pubes of the illustrated female figure. I shared peeka-bu with her and we bonded over email immediately. On a personal level, she is super cool, but the reasons Dr. Lissa Rankin is my new She-Hero go far beyond my words.

For some, a lot more that you’d ever imagine.

I read this excerpt on Amazon.com and was bubbling up with tears of laughter and compassion. Rankin tells a story about an emergency room run for a woman named Mildred, who is notorious for using her vagina like a purse, literally. “She then proceeded to pull down her pants and began yanking things out of her vagina like it was Mary Poppins’ magic carpet bag (or, in this case, carpet box). There was a plastic baggie of pills, a wad of bills a tube of lipstick, a pen. Half expecting Mildred to pull out a red scarf that magically turns into a bouquet of flowers, I was on the verge of busting out laughing when I suddenly realized that there was something very wrong with this picture.”

What was wrong with it is that Lissa recognized this woman went through some tragic experiences at a young age that made her hate her lady parts enough to use them for a completely different purpose. Sure, it’s an extreme example, and sounds like an episode of Grey’s Anatomy, but you get the point. The time is now to stop shutting off from essential parts of who we are and learn to tools to help us create a more loving relationship with all areas of our bodies.

What are you going to do today to take this step? Are there parts that you feel uncomfortable with and could treat better? I invite you to do some investigation–and share this with your friends! I know what I am going to do. I’m going to read the rest of this book.

Cheers.

Sarah