Posts Tagged ‘how to be sexy’

How to Talk to Your Man about His Style

October 29, 2010

When it comes to his personal style,

You would think that a simple comment about jeans wouldn’t be the cause of an afternoon of tension and arguments amongst a happy couple. Oh but it could be! I once had a boyfriend tell me out of the blue that my jeans were not that flattering and I needed to get sexier ones. Ouch! My immediate reaction to this was shock, defensiveness and some justified anger. I could not believe someone would make a comment about my clothes, without any cushiony prelude. Afterwards, he tried to save himself from the obvious ‘foot in mouth situation’ with compliments and explanations. But the dirt was dug. “This must mean that I am not sexy as I am and what I look like matters more than who I am and so on,” says the mind. The truth is that was not the case. It’s just how he said it, that made it sound like a criticism more than an encouraging suggestion to make a wardrobe adjustment. At the end of the day, we ended up going shopping and he bought me a pair of jeans, that remain my favorite pair to date. Yeah, in the end, I scored, however, I would have traded the new addition to my closet for a more friendly assessment of my fashion sense (sans the drama). In reflecting on this day, I realized that if clothing comments are touchy, so must be anything having to do with another person’s way of presenting themselves externally, including body grooming.

it’s all about HOW you say it.

Recently, I was lucky enough to meet Kim Seltzer, an experienced elite dating coach and image consult. She said she runs into situations like this all the time in her line of work. I got some great tips from her and am now sharing them with YOU.

In our video interview, Kim gives the low-down on how to get your significant other to enhance his/her look in a loving and drama free way. She states that sexy is about feeling confident in yourself and helping your partner do the same. It’s not about the perfect body or hair. It’s about putting yourself together in the way that is most flattering for you. The truth is, sometimes we all could use a little bit of nudging in this department.

In our interview, Kim talks about 3 different personality types in men and how learning about who you are dealing with can help determine how you communicate your needs to that person. She also gives away common ‘mistakes’ women make that will be sure to drive your partner in the opposite direction from where you’d like him to go.




A Sexy Way To Date and Collaborate

October 15, 2010

A New Way to Date

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peeka-bu is proud to support a program called “Creating Your Ideal Relationship.” The cutting edge dating coach Antoinette Cabral teams up with Relationship and Self-Empowerment experts Jason Nelson, Elissa (Wowza) Lodge, James Wanless Ph.D and the acclaimed sexy expert Allana Pratt for a tele-seminar on a ‘new’ kind of dating. Learn to break the old dating paradigm filled with angst and confusion and start dating from an empowered, enjoyable place. This incredible team will teach you how to magnetize your ideal partner by embracing who you are. One great benefit of the program is learning how to joyfully love and live in the body that you have. As a token of this bonus, each participant will get a pair of peeka-bu ecstatic dancer panties in your choice of a thong or boyshort style. Please check out for more information.

and Collaborate.

You want to know what else is sexy? Being generous, creative and intuitive. My friend, Stephanie Wood Miller, a 20 year marketing expert for many Fortune 500 companies, decided that the competitive nature of women in business is not sexy. She created an amazing company called Wisdom Of The Kitchen, a place where collaboration and generosity rule! Please join her for an exciting event in Los Angeles on November 13.

I think this is going to be a really unique experience. 300 women will be getting together to discover our collective power as women. A portion of your registration will be used as a microgrant for you to spend on a few businesses that will present their plans to the group. You can then determine how you would like to contribute to help the selected businesses to grow. There will also be a panel of speakers and a group activity to generate a new revenue stream for participants. The idea behind the day is to see what’s really possible for us, women.

Check out the NEW in peeka-bu!

September 12, 2010

Jasmine Seduction Shaving Soap, Sexy Skin After-Shave Oil, Ecstatic Dancer Tattoo Undies

Fall, Flowers, Oils and Undies.

This time of year is all about the new for peeka-bu. After an exciting summer of creating and exploring, I am thrilled to share with you some new peeka-bu products. Each one has a special meaning for me. The Jasmine Seduction Shaving Soap is 100% Natural with a pleasingly potent Jasmine smell. I am careful about choosing products that are free of chemicals, especially on my sensitive areas. And this particular soap smells so good I sometimes want to eat it. It reminds me of walking through my neighborhood at the end of the day and stopping to “smell the Jasmine flowers” so to speak. There are many health benefits to Jasmine, however it is most know for its romantic and uplifting qualities.

Did you know that Jasmine is an aphrodisiac, and an anti-depressant, and a scent of serenity?

The Sexy Skin After Shave Oil is also 100% Natural made from pure healing oils. My friends always joke with me about my obsession with essential oils. I usually have at least 3 in my purse at any time. Essential oils are fast acting on our senses. They can uplift, energize, calm, quiet, heal, relieve just about anything going on in the body and mind. This particular formula has oils that are calming and nurturing for the skin. It is made from Hemp Seed Oil which has the perfect ratio of Omega 3 and Omega 6 fatty acids for moisturizing skin on a cellular level. It also has Tea Tree Oil, often known as a ‘magical lagoon’ for healing cuts, bumps and burns. Not to mention Soybean, Avocado, Apricot, Eucalyptus and Rosemary and Vitamin E Oils each with contributing to keeping the skin, smooth, sensual, healthy, soft and FREE of icky razor bumps. Finally, I wanted to create a product to wear and sexy undies were an easy choice. Sitting atop organic cotton boyshorts and thongs is the peeka-bu ecstatic dancer tattoo design inspired by one of my new favorite activities, ecstatic dance. Nothing brings out sensual feelings like moving my body to highly energetic music. I love being about to twirl around without worrying about whether I am following steps or tripping over my own feet. The dance brings such a feeling of freedom and joy.

In the name of NEWness, all peeka-bu products are available for 10% for 1 week only! Enjoy.