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How to Talk to Your Tween About Puberty

November 12, 2010

Talking to your tween about puberty may not seem easy,

I honestly can’t remember the conversation my mom and I had about puberty other than a big hug and a congratulations when I started my first period. Unfortunately, it was gross to me, a hideous thought. Besides my mother’s excitement that day, all I heard was that whatever was happening was inconvenient, something to just be dealt with so I could just go on with other things. I had no idea that being able to have a period each month and cleanse the body in this way was a gift that only us, women, could experience. She awkwardly told to grab a tampon, look in a mirror, read the instructions on the box and make sure I didn’t lose the applicator. I don’t even think she referred to my vagina as a word at the time. She simply gestured to the area, sent me on my way, the later asked how it went. I so didn’t want to answer that. Cut to a few years ago and the pendulum has swung drastically toward the the ‘too much information’ side of the spectrum. With the growth of peeka-bu, my mom has become a pro at talking about vaginas, vulvas and personal shaving to just about anyone. At the first peeka-bu trade show, she was doing a ‘cherades-esque’ demo of body grooming for some buyers with the mannequin in front of the toilet seat hanging on the wall in our booth.

but the sooner the ‘sexier’ says the experts.

That aside, most moms are looking for a happy medium between not enough and too much. The key is to start early. Taking the opportunity to empower your daughter about her body when she is young can help her become more comfortable with herself before her body changes, thus overcoming the fears around puberty a lot easier. Dr. Lissa Rankin M.D, founder of and author of “What’s Up Down There” wrote a brilliant post about this very subject with some very helpful tips. She recommends the peeka-bu mirror as a way to help tweens get to know their bodies.

<a href=" a>”>Click here for the article.

I had the privilege to interview Dr. Jaeline Jaffe, Ph.D, a brilliant family therapist who has done extensive research on the subject of ‘down there.’ She gives some more useful tips on how to talk ot your child and at the same time overcome your own discomfort on the subject. Taking the right approach can help her make healthier and more self honoring decisions down the line. Please watch this video for the full interview. She also reveals a very entertaining personal story about her own experience with her daughter. Go Dr. Jaffe!

I hope you find this useful and pass it on to your friends.

Enjoy your weekend,